Freshers feelings

September 24, 2017
It's coming up to the end of my Freshers week at the University of Exeter and I'm honestly not sure how to feel about that, one thing I know is that there's no "right" way to do Freshers and I think that that is one of the most important things to understand because I know people who have partied every night and had the best times of their life while I've also met people, like myself, who have had a much tamer Freshers yet still really enjoyed themselves. It's vital to acknowledge that the chances are that you won't enjoy yourself if you're doing something which really isn't you but you're doing it to try and "fit in", just do you and you will have a much better time!

I recently teamed up with Printiki and was kindly gifted a voucher to print these lovely polaroid prints which are looking great in the centre of my pin board and definitely make my room feel a lot more homely which is one of my number one tips to making yourself feel better about moving to a completely new place because having lots of photos up reminds you of memories which makes you feel a lot less alone when you are sat in a completely new room by yourself. So, make your room yours even if you are only there for a year because it makes the settling in process much easier.
Also, Freshers can really help with confidence levels and your ability to talk to people. I know that before I came to university, I was so so introverted and not able to talk to people but over the past week, I've definitely forced myself to get out there a bit more which is really good as I've spoke to more people than I have in the past two years probably. I'm not saying that I'm really confident and can talk easily now because there's no way a week would fix nearly 19 years of anxiety but it's something that I have seen improve in myself as the days go on, whether it be having a conversation in the kitchen with one of my flat mates or something as simple as having a quick chat with the person I'm sat next to in a lecture theatre. For me, baby steps are so important and I know that I was so nervous that I wouldn't be able to make any friends at university but seeing my progress thus far is really motivating to go on and increase my confidence to make new friends and meet new people.

However, even though it has helped with my ability to talk to people, it's not what everyone makes it out to be. I think it's completely normal to just feel a bit odd during this settling in period and not really know what to do with yourself because that's how I have felt a lot of this week. It can be isolating when you're sat in your room by yourself in the evenings but as I've made clear in my posts throughout sixth form, I learned to enjoy my own company and it definitely doesn't get to me as much as it perhaps used to. This is so important because everyone is different and while I do enjoy chill events like going to Spoons, I haven't reached the stage where I feel comfortable to go out into town in the evenings to clubs and that's completely ok. Luckily, the people I've met thus far are all understanding of that which is good because it won't hinder friendships but I'm not having to do anything that I don't want to do. You could say that I'm not the typical Fresher but 1) I think that's what everyone expected anyway and 2) is there such a thing as a typical Fresher? Everyone enjoys so many different things, different experiences and has different ways of doing things that I think it's impossible to fit everyone into one category.

On a different note, I signed up for some societies which I am looking forward to talking about in later posts when I have been to a couple of events for them. I am quite excited about meeting new people with the same interests as me and I think that it'll be good to help me make friends. Also, because I'm a completely non sporty person, all of the societies I wanted to sign up for were actually really cheap which is obviously a bonus on my bank account! I definitely haven't spent as much money as I was expecting to during Freshers which shows that you do not need hundreds of pounds to have fun, admittedly, I didn't go to any of the evening Freshers events because I just wasn't feeling it but I still managed to have a good time and because of this, I treated myself to a pair of New Balance trainers as an early birthday present from me to me!(I am a big believer in buying yourself birthday and christmas presents which maybe my bank account isn't such a fan of). However, I think that these shoes were a necessary purchase because oh my goodness, the hills around Exeter campus are deathly and they don't call it cardiac hill for nothing. I have to prep myself now to take a bottle of water whenever I know I'm walking up the hills because by the time I'm at the top, my face is a completely different colour and I most certainly can not breathe. I'm telling myself that it'll get easier in time though, which I'm sure it will but right now it is a struggle. I guess that the advantage of that is that I will slowly get fitter which was one of my goals when moving to Exeter so there's a silver lining, I suppose!

On to the subject of food because well, who doesn't like food? I don't know if it is just me but since moving to university, my appetite and general hunger levels have completely changed. I will have days where I eat barely anything and then have days where I'm so hungry constantly and it's just strange. I would also definitely recommend buying tupperware because it saves my life when I inevitably cook too much food! It's not a lie that pasta will be your go to food so do what I did and buy a 3kg bag of it.

So, it's Sunday as I'm writing this and my lectures start tomorrow. Well, I say that but actually I just have an 8:30am statistics lecture for an hour then I'm done for the day but stillllll... 8:30?! Monday morning?! Statistics?! Whoever decided that obviously wanted to ruin our lives but at least it'll be over and done with sooner. However, I don't know how well my body is going to cope with being outside that early but we will see. We received our timetables last week and honestly, it could have been a lot worse. At the moment, there's no days where I think oh my goodness I'm definitely not going to be able to do this which is a bonus, however, I am slightly concerned about the jump in level of difficulty between A Level and first year but I'm sure it'll be manageable as I've heard plenty of people say that for psychology, the first year is just getting everyone at the same level and easing everyone in so hopefully I won't be too confused by anything!

I recognise that this has been a bit of an all over the place post but I feel that this was the only way to get my feelings across about my first week at university. Overall, it's been good and I feel as though Exeter is definitely the right place for me, it just feels so surreal after all of those months of panicking and convincing myself that I haven't got in...

If you're at/been to/planning on going to university, what type of Fresher do you think you would be?

Lauryn


2 comments:

  1. There's nothing more comforting than realising that everyone is in the same boat - the unknown, the terrifying transition of having to establish yourself and also keep on top of everything. I love your blog because it's down to earth and more than relatable. Best of luck for tomorrow's early start! x

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    1. I agree! Thank you so much, that's so lovely! Hope you have a wonderful week too x

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