20 Life Lessons In 20 Years

October 02, 2018
It feels like I've been a teenager forever now so saying that I'm 20 is really quite weird. However, I'm trying to get myself out of the mindset that I need to achieve everything by a certain age so let's discuss 20 Life Lessons In 20 Years, which is basically the things I've learned in life so far. I did this 2 years ago when I turned 18 so let's see what I've learned since then...

20 life lessons in 20 years

1. Living by yourself can be hard

While living in a different city can be fun for the majority of the time and I do love seeing my friends so much, living by myself has been a challenge. During my first year at University, I spent days alone in my room, not seeing anybody and let's be honest, that's no good for anyone. So, while living by myself can be great, it is a bit overwhelming and it can be hard sometimes.

2. People grow apart and that's normal

A few years ago, I thought that losing my friends in secondary school was the worst thing that could ever happen to me. I was a dramatic teenager, ok? I've learned that as you grow older, it's natural to grow apart from people and that isn't necessarily anyone's fault, it's just the way the world works. The people that are meant to be in your life will stay.

3. Nobody cares what size you are

Right, obviously there's going to be those judgemental people in the world that are just too into everyone's business but for the majority of the time, nobody is looking at what size you are. Whether you're a size 6 or a size 20, if someone is actually a decent person, they aren't going to base their opinion of you on your size. So, if you're afraid of wearing that swimming costume on holiday in fear of people judging you, just remember that they probably have more going on in their head than what a stranger is wearing on a holiday.

4. Self care is so important

We all need to practice more self care and this is something that I am going to continue to promote in my twenties. We need to get more into the habit of taking time for ourselves, stepping back from things that we find overwhelming and just giving ourselves a break. Life can be hard sometimes and we are doing the best we can and that's ok.

5. Drinking water does make your skin better and just makes you feel better in general

I remember in my early teenage years, I would always read that drinking 2l of water every day would help your skin to improve and it would just make you feel better in day to day life. Me, being the stubborn 14 year old that I was, continued to drink energy drinks and all of those vile things like there was no tomorrow. I regret that now. Basically, drink water, kids. Your body will thank you for it.

6. Money isn't everything, but it does help

As we start to earn our own money, it obviously becomes a big part of our lives. That doesn't mean to say that money is everything, we managed to cope with it before when we would be happy when given a couple of pounds to go out for the day with friends. Basically, money obviously helps us in life but, it's not everything and it isn't the route to happiness. Even if that new lipstick does make you feel happy - it's not a long term solution. However, it does help to relieve stress obviously when you have that financial stability. 

7. Staying grounded and humble is the best thing you can do. 

Life can take you anywhere and you could be anyone but the most important thing is that you stay grounded. After all, there's nothing worse than a person who is entitled and thinks everyone owes them a favour. 

8. Enjoy the present, don't wish for the future

I'm guilty of wishing for the next thing in my life - particularly the time where I get to buy a dog. It's important to live in the present, plan for the future but appreciate where you are right now. There's literally no point in wishing our lives away and just waiting for the next 'good' thing when we could be focusing on what we are doing right now.

9. Anyone who makes you feel inadequate is not worth having in your life

There's a difference between being honest with someone when you have their best interests in mind and just being rude and making someone feel worthless. Do not be the latter. In life, you will meet people who aren't very nice, it's pretty much inevitable. If they make you feel as though you are worth less than them, they just really aren't worth having in your life.

10. Try to check your emails every day or at least a couple times a week, you'll regret it if not

I'm not saying religiously check your emails if you are on holiday etc but if you are in work mode, it's good to keep on top of your emails. Basically, I remember when I didn't check mine for a couple of weeks and it took me days to go through it all and it was the most mind numbing thing ever. I now make a point of clearing my inbox as often as I can so it never gets to the point of being so full that I don't even want to look at it, leading to it getting even more full. 


11. Alcohol will not solve all of your problems

This is basically a note to myself: Lauryn, next time you're feeling stressed, don't resort to drinking more gin than your body can handle because you will regret it and you'll just feel worse the next day when you've got to do the things you were stressed about with a massive headache. Not fun.

12. If you don't want to go 'out out', don't

Right, if you don't feel like going out to nightclubs, bars or whatever, don't. Nobody is forcing you and if it's going to make you feel that stressed and uncomfortable, it's really not worth it. Plus, if you've got a good group of people around you, they won't expect you to go anyway if you're not alright with it. I'm 20 now and I've never set foot in a night club and I've got to say, I'm absolutely fine with that. 

13. Everyone is at different stages in their life - that doesn't mean that they are any better or worse than you

I have some friends that are my age who are married or have children, I have some who are single with no intentions of settling down soon. Some friends are on the road to their dream career, some are still exploring what they really enjoy doing. Basically, we are all running to our own times, there is no rush and what stage we are in our life does not define our worth in relation to others. 

14. There is not a 'right amount' of your life to share on social media

Ok so maybe I think that posting in-depth statuses about what you're having for breakfast, lunch and dinner everyday is taking it a bit too far but in short, post what you want. I spent so many of my teenage years worrying that I'm posting "too much" on social media, especially where my mental health was concerned and now I've just realised that I don't care. Post what you like. 

15. Foundation then concealer, not the other way around

I mean, you can do what you want but as a little reminder to myself, the concealer then foundation look never did look too good on me. Then again, I didn't really have a clue what I was doing with makeup back then anyway. 

16. There's such a thing as 'too much pasta'

I do love a good bowl of pasta but you think you're cooking for one and next thing you know, you've got enough to feed the whole neighbourhood. Invest in a pair of scales and actually weigh out how much you're cooking because if you're anything like me, you waste so much pasta as you make enough to feed the 5000. Also, eating pasta every day may taste nice but is not going to do any favours for your waist line, Lauryn. Control yourself. 

17. Keeping everything from your birthday cards from your 12th birthday to random leaflets from secondary school is going to make your whole moving out experience a lot more tedious

Just throw it away. You think you want it for the memories, in reality it's taking up space that could be used for something useful. Let's be real, you're never going to look at a programme from a school concert 5 years ago again. 

18. Just because you can buy it, doesn't mean you have to buy it


So Lauryn, next time you see that palette on Beauty Bay that you really want and you know you can afford, look in your make up drawers, look at the 50 you already have, close the god damn website and save yourself some money. Want and need are two different things. 


19. The Wetherspoons app is a serious game changer

Awkward when ordering but always in need of a Spoons fix? The app will save your life. You can order allll of the food and drink while being at the safety of your own table so you can avoid the rowdy middle-aged men pushing in front of you at the bar. 

20. Be the best version of you, but don't try to be anyone else

Basically, strive to improve yourself, do what's good for you and work on yourself as much as you want. Be the you that you want to be. However, don't feel like you have to copy other people in order to achieve that. There's only one you in this world and that's something to be embraced, not ignored!

What's your most important life lesson? Let me know!




7 comments:

  1. Brilliant article Lauryn - full of words of wisdom x

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  2. I definitely agree with a lot of this - especially that self care is so important x

    www.ofbeautyandnothingness.co.uk

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  3. I loved this post, being 31 I can relate to so many of these, and I think these things get more and more important as I get older.

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  4. Love all of these! People do definitely grow apart and as they say, everything happens for a reason!xo

    Char | www.charslittleblog.co.uk

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  5. It's so true about people growing apart, it's just part of life and getting older. Something I learnt around age 20 too! x

    Gemma Louise

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