On Body Confidence and Eating Struggles

May 11, 2018
TW: Eating disorders and body confidence issues

My struggle with body confidence and eating

As someone who struggles with body confidence issues, every day is a constant "Am I going to look fat in this?", "Am I too big to wear this?" but this is something that I particularly struggle with in the Summer. Not only is it incredibly uncomfortable when it's too hot and you're still wearing a pair of trousers because you don't feel comfortable enough to show your legs, it also makes you doubt everything about your appearance even more.

Summer for most means shorts, crop tops, cute dresses and co ords. Summer for me means spending hours in changing rooms trying to find at least one thing that doesn't make me feel completely awful. It's feeling self conscious every time a group of slimmer people walk past me in the outfits I would love to be able to wear. It's avoiding Instagram because other people's new outfit posts can be so damaging for my confidence. It's awful.

I don't want people to think I'm saying that being "fat" is ugly, it's not what I'm saying. I'm talking about how I see myself and I want to make that clear before I move on.

I've never been particularly slim, I always felt like the 'bigger' one of the friendship group, the person that cut the labels out of their clothes so nobody could see the size. I still do this now. If I'm at someone's house, I frantically cut the labels out of my clothes before they go in the washing machine, I feel anxious that people will see the size and judge me but let's be honest, they aren't going to. Nobody is looking for the labels on my clothes. Nobody is judging me for my size, nobody important anyway. I've always had this difficult relationship with my weight and my appearance, something that I try to hide by promoting body positivity for everyone else. Like I said, it's only me that I see the issue with. I don't really know the aim of this post, I guess by trying to face the issue head on, it might help me to feel a bit more comfortable in my body.

For as long as I can remember, I've had issues with eating. It's definitely better now but I remember being in my younger years of secondary school and binge eating when nobody was around, usually late at night, to try and comfort eat and ignore the other mental health conditions that were getting progressively worse. This is weird to talk about. Late 2016, I put on a lot of weight, I was in my second year of A Levels, I was not happy at sixth form and I didn't have many friends. I still haven't been able to get rid of that weight and I hate it.

This Summer, I'm trying to be more body positive, I'm trying to take more outfit photos and I'm trying to be happier with the way I look. So far, it's not going too well. But, I'm trying. Writing this blog post is a big step as I'm acknowledging how I feel and writing about it, I'm trying to show the anxiety that I deal with daily.

The thing is, I'd love to do more make up and fashion posts. I have so many creative ideas that have just been suppressed by this fear of showing myself properly online and I want that to stop. I want to be able to freely share my newest purchases and not feel scared that I'm going to receive negative comments about my weight and appearance because hey, the internet can be mean sometimes.

I remember being on holiday last year and not uploading half of the photos of us having the best time because of the way my arms looked, the way my stomach looked large and the way my thighs looked bigger than average - I stopped sharing some of the best memories because I didn't want to show myself. This is a struggle. As someone who lives and works writing and sharing my life on the internet, it is a daily challenge trying to confront my issues with body confidence.

I recently got engaged. We aren't getting married for a couple of years but I'm already panicking about my appearance and my weight. I'm already stressing about how the way I look could ruin the best day of my life. I don't want to live like this.

My main point of this post is that I'm trying to work on it, I'm trying to acknowledge that I'm probably the only one that cares about my double chin and well if someone else does care, they evidently aren't worth my time.

This post was a bit of a ramble. I apologise for that.

What are your best tips for body confidence? Let me know!


  1. Really great post, thank you for sharing! I recognize a lot of your feelings as I've been struggling with weight and body issues myself for very long. I've noticed that starting a blog and posting pictures of myself on which I focus on the outfit, the clothes and not so much on my body has really helped me to readjust my priotities and to shift my attention. (Btw, I think you look lovely in the pictures!!) Congratulations on your engagement and I'm sure that you'll look absolutely stunning when the big day comes :) xxxx Yaroslava (www.thevolcanicveins.com)

    1. Thank you so much! I agree with the shift in attention as a result of blog photos. Thats so kind, thank you xxx

  2. Lauryn I think you are describing how the vast majority of us women feel. We are so quick to judge ourselves. Why do we talk to ourselves the way we wouldn’t dream of telling someone else face to face? But recognising it is the first step to beginning to change how we are impacted by it. Whoever decided slim was beautiful anyway?! First step is to leave those labels on!! Xx

    1. Thank you - I hope that by acknowledging it, it will lead to positive change xx

  3. Thanksfor this blog it makes me feel confident about my self and not ashamed I hope you start to except who u are and get to where u want to be you look great by the way ☺

  4. Also hope you have a great wedding day you deserve it.

  5. I can completely relate about the body positivity conundrum, like I know with myself I really lack confidence in my body but I am 100% all for encouraging others to be happy in the skin that they're in and it's like this weird thing where I don't think anyone needs to change their shape or size except...me? It's very odd.

    I think confidence wise (although I'm totally a work in progress) I'd maybe just try thinking about how you'd talk to yourself if you were say, a friend. So like if a friend came to you with your exact same thoughts and body shape, what would you tell them, then tell that to yourself? I think everyone is a lot nicer to friends than to themselves a lot of the time.

    Julia // The Sunday Mode

  6. This is such a relatable post to me. It feels like you wrote this about me. I really hope you are able to find happiness in yourself and you are beautiful <3

    1. Thank you so much - I really hope that you are able to do the same lovely xx

  7. I completely relate to this.

    No matter what I've weighed I've always felt self conscious about my body and wanted to make changes. I never know what to wear when it comes to Summer but this is the first year where I've felt comfortable with my appearance thankfully. Honestly, I put it down to discovering my summer style. Comfortable dresses with pockets and a cute little black swimming costume to make me feel good at the beach.

    I still have a huge wishlist of things I'd like to change about my body but, I'm growing more confident. I know that my happiness is the most important thing and I don't want to make myself feel guilty for going out and enjoying a good meal every now and again.

    Please don't panic about your wedding and any other events that might make you feel self conscious.

    You're beautiful and your happiness will radiate through.

    Kate x


    1. I'm so glad that you're feeling comfortable this summer! I'm sorry that you understand what it feels like to be so self conscious but you're beautiful too! Thank you for your lovely comment xxx


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